The response

After an amazing friend Facebook stalked MF (without me even asking) and found out that he is in fact STILL in a relationship. I drafted my response and sent it back with confidence that I had made the right decision.

Hi (his name),

I don’t hate you. There was a lot of pain that you caused me, and I appreciate your apology. I’m moving on and I’m so happy to be where I am in my life. Things are wonderful, and they worked out the way they were supposed to. I truly believe that.

I find it disrespectful to your new relationship and your new girlfriend to meet with you. It always hurt me when you met with (his ex’s name), and I don’t want to be a part of someone else’s cause of pain or anxiety.

It would be great if we could be friends, but given our history, I think it’s best for both of us to just move on.

I hope you are happy. I wish you the very best.

-(my name)

And thus, I opened some kind of new door. A door that closes the room behind me where MF lives.

Yours stepping in the right direction,



5 thoughts on “The response

  1. Hi,

    I’ve been following your blog for a few weeks now. I grew up in Oklahoma, but now live in a different state. I’m recently single and I find your blog so helpful! I just wanted to say your response to his e-mail was perfect! Very classy, to the point, and honest. Congrats on moving on.


    • Hi E! Thanks for following! Thank you for the comment, too. I appreciate what people think…the good, the bad, and the ugly. I have nothing to hide and I know a lot of people experience these very same situations. It’s kind of crazy once you start talking about the things people normally shut-up inside, most people have been through it. I hope you come back!

    • Thanks kingdrama! I honestly feel like staying mature and respectable all has to do with time. Being patient and letting things sink in is always wise. I’ve also come to a very peaceful place over the past 6 months, but it definitely has not been easy getting here. And, of course, sometimes are easier than others. I appreciate you reading!

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