Guest Blogger – 50ftManEatingWoman: Cheers!

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Despite any current circumstances, any potential issues, any life-changing events, or anything ever at all ever going on ever ever, one thing is consistently true- it’s good to have a little help from your friends.

Over fourth of July weekend, I had the wonderful opportunity to get away for a couple days and visit with some dear friends down the road a ways. Seeing these lovely ladies and catching up is always great. They are the type of girlfriends you can talk about anything with, who are always able to pick up right where you left off, whether it be hours, days, or months apart.

We talked over dinner, drinks, lunch, and cats about everything from politics to parties, work and SEX. And all of a sudden, mid-conversation on my second day out, I had an epiphany. No matter what the subject was, no matter if it was from my mouth or hers, the outcome was always the same. We related and agreed on EVERYTHING.

Not once did I ever feel misunderstood; never did I have to explain myself; in no way did I ever question her words. Even more amazing than all that, was the fact that I had this experience with more than one person! In the same weekend! (!!!!!!)

This special connection brought a lot to my attention. While I learned more and more about their lives and shared in good news and bad news alike, I learned an incredible amount about my own life. I shared the same stories, same concerns, and same feelings with each and was given the same connection and emotion in return. Though different words were said and different experiences shared, the sentiment was the still same.

They were there. We have all been there.

I imagine the number of times I thought “I know!” and “Me too!” was completely off the charts. Hearing the ways in which they were able to relate to my experiences and finding myself able to relate completely to those shared with me brought a lot of AHA! moments to light within my own self; understanding situations, reigning in emotions, and bringing the pieces of the puzzle closer together.

All of the answers to life’s problems are right there waiting to be found, but somehow they are so much harder to see until someone shows them to you. All of life’s answers lie within each other’s hearts… and what a swell place that is to keep them.

Confused? Need help? Trouble sorting things out? Looking for a second opinion? Longing to be told you’re not actually insane?

Piece of cake- just go where everybody knows your name.

On the highway to enlightenment,

50ftManEatingWoman

Guest Blogger – 50ftManEatingWoman: The “L” Word

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There seems to be a very fine- perhaps even dotted- line between love and loneliness. A line so faint that it is nearly impossible to tell whether my feelings for another are of a genuine interest or a longing for human connection of a physical and emotional level that cannot be met solely by friends and family.

I don’t think that anyone necessarily wants to be alone, even if there is no desire for a serious relationship or otherwise. There is still a basic human need for touch, an embrace. A need to be cared for, a need to be needed; wanted. A need for compassion and understanding on some deep personal level (see: feral children).

So then, if it is crucial to life, to social structure of the human psyche, to have a connection to other people… there must be some level of need for “relationships.” I put this in quotes because I am not entirely sure what that means- to me or anyone else.

Yes, we are animals, and there is a certain amount of raw behaviors associated with that. Mating rituals and all. If you have ever been to the dance club at last call on a Saturday you have seen the wild in their natural habitat. But these things do not always apply to all. Pigs can get a sunburn, dolphins can have orgasms (and are terrible sluts btw), and elephants mate for life.

Elephants. Dolphins. Where do we lie as animals? Somewhere in the middle. Somewhere between the bump and grind and a lazy Sunday afternoon.

(cue: text message)

Hungry in the Big City,

50ftManEatingWoman

Guest Blogger – 50ftManEatingWoman: Ask and You Shall Receive

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I know I’m not ready to date.

And that’s okay.

I’m really not interested in dating… as far as relationships go. But I am interested in men and women who interest me (?), and I am interested in going out. And I am interested in “the chase” and “the game” (because let me tell you, I got some game). And I am interested in SEX… and I also think that SEX should always be written as such.

Herein lies the problem, because it would seem that you cannot just do all of the above without personal lives, and emotions, and possible deep feelings, or some other junk like that getting in the way (See: No Strings Attached… stop making blockbusters out of my life, Natalie Portman!!). Granted, two weeks ago I decided it was high time I got some no-strings-attached attention and began seeking a legitimate partner for weekend activities.

I thought I had control of the situation until I realized that there is absolutely no way around the dating process, even if you’re not dating… that is, if you wish to remain free of creepy randos. Not that dating anyone ever meant they were not a creepy rando… but I digress.

Now, I’m not looking to get married next week, or hell- even next year, but I still find myself making the same decisions and having the same expectations that I would if I were looking for a serious love interest. I don’t necessarily think that’s a bad thing- to expect someone I want to see naked on a regular basis to be open and honest and dependable and trustworthy… and hot… and all the other things I would want in a person that I was genuinely interested in.

Maybe this is the point where you are asking yourself, “Where is she going with all of this??” And well, I will tell you.

DON’T EVER THINK YOU KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON WITH RELATIONSHIPS!

Because you don’t. Yes, that is sooo crabby sounding, I know, but that is really first and foremost the one thing I personally have learned through all my years of boyfriends, girlfriends, manfriends, dates, lovers, one night stands, engagements (!), and breakups.

The best thing that can be done is to know yourself and know what you want, expect, and deserve from other people. No matter who the person is or what the relationship is about, that list of desirables is applicable to everyone in every situation. Whether they are potential life-partners, or potential night-partners, YOU still deserve the best and only the best.

And girl, “You can have whatever you like….”

Hungry in the Big City,

50ftManEatingWoman

Guest Blogger – Hello, 50ftManEatingWoman

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After 12 simultaneously short and long years in the dating scene, 50ftManEatingWoman found herself in a position to settle down. When things went sour and she was suddenly thrown back into the world of singledom less than a week before the deal went down, she began to question everything surrounding love, relationships, and the ways that people relate to each other.

Now, a few months later, as the shock wears off and deep thinking sets in, she is proud to bring her new questions and ideas to the world of 25 Single White Female Blog, in the hopes that her stories and musings may aid another in their journey to understand WTF ARE PEOPLE THINKING??

Stay tuned for posts about the past, the future, and what every man-eating woman deserves…..